How you feel is not the problem, you are entitled to feel as you do. The challenge is connected to how you handle, those feelings. Does it open the door to destructive behaviors or alienation?
Anger that is paralyzing, costs you more, than is it worth. When hurt feelings, misunderstandings and downright disrespectful cause you to become a different person. You have lost the battle twice.
Once, for the imposter that you become and twice, for the reality of who you are, that is missed. Walking in who I made you [to be] is much simpler. Accepting purpose at face value will save you time, effort and energy.
The way you feel and the way you respond are real, no need to justify. Be honest about each and be equally answerable for it all. You have a single life to live, live it in the present and not yesterday’s pain.
2 Corinthians 12:9
“My grace is sufficient for you [My lovingkindness and My mercy are more than enough—always available—regardless of the situation]; for [My] power is being perfected [and is completed and shows itself most effectively] in [your] weakness.” Therefore, I will all the more gladly boast in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ [may completely enfold me and] may dwell in me.