The pendulum shifts from victim to Victor by taking responsibility for what you have experienced. This is what you saw, said and believed while in the moments of testing.
To blame others is easy and delays the part of assessing, that leads to responsibility. As long as, the problem is them, then accountability is indefinitely delayed.
If it is worth having, then there will be a fight. Taking possession of what is valued will require a confrontation. First you must confront the internal enemy, before the dealing with the outside threats.
The victim’s condition is marked by powerlessness, but the victor sees unique openings and opportunities even in the most dire of situations. He uses the darkness to develop night vision and finds the hidden light.
1 Corinthians 4:5
Therefore do not pronounce judgment before the time, before the Lord comes, who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart. Then each one will receive his commendation from God.